My husband has learned the hard way that when I'm staring at the clothes handing in the wardrobe and keep saying I don’t have anything to wear, it rarely has something to do with the clothes.
He now knows that when I take too long getting ready there’s something bothering me, most often than not, I feel insecure. He also knows the best thing to do is not to keep reminding me to hurry up but rather to help me feel good about myself again.
Sometimes it’s just saying out loud that I would be the most beautiful woman in the room (while I’m still wearing my jeans), sometimes it’s just looking me in the eyes and telling me “You’ve got this”.
Because when a woman feels good, she also looks good. Correction, she looks irresistible.
What follows below are a few tips to look stunning, tested first hand.
This is probably the most important thing I’ve learned. I know that when I make time for myself before a party or a big event, I am more relaxed and everything else falls into place. Or if it doesn’t, I know how to handle it without letting it ruin my day.
When I have a lot of things going on, the easiest is to skip on the promises I have made to myself because there’s no one I have to look in the eye and say “You know that thing I said I would do? Well, I won’t be able to because…”.
I used to skip my meditation while this and sleep are the two things which have the biggest impact on me.
That’s why, I make sure to plan time for myself before and after an event.
A short nap before a party, especially a New Year's Eve one or any other event which might require me to go to bed past midnight, is a must for me. It may be just 20-30 minutes with my eyes closed but I feel much more energized afterwards.
Normally meditate for 20 mins but if I don’t have that much time, I would do it for 10 mins, sometimes even in the car on our way to the party (obviously, I’m not the one driving).
On a night after a party, even if I go to bed at a decent time, I often don’t rest well. I’m either too tired or my mind is processing emotions and replaying impressions from the day.
Therefore I try to plan as few things as possible for the day after so I can catch up on sleep and rest well.
Ideally, I would exfoliate my face, follow with a hydrating mask like La Bella Figura Manuka Healing Mask or Laurel Honey Berry Enzyme and take a bath. Leahlani’s Mermaid Mask or Blissoma Lavish are great options too.
And if I have the time to also take a nap, that would be the best gift I could make myself.
I have two favorites, I reach out to when I’m getting ready for a party or a big event.
Which one I use depends on how much time I have.
Sometimes if I’m short on time, I like to apply a mask while I’m taking a nap before I start getting ready (with a towel on my pillow, in case I turn to my side while sleeping) and La Bella Figura Manuka Healing Mask is a great choice as my naps are usually 20-30 mins. It leaves my skin soft, plump and glowing.
If a nap is not an option, then I like to apply Leahlani Meli Glow for about 10-15 minutes while I prepare my clothes, shoes, purse, etc. The best thing about Meli Glow, apart from the results it delivers, is that even a few minutes with it are enough. The hyaluronic acid in it helps to fill in fine lines and wrinkles and ‘plump’ the skin.
Keep in mind that Meli Glow could be used daily while La Bella Figura Manuka Healing Mask is intended to be used once to twice a week. This is important if you decide to apply a mask before the event and the day after. Applying more active masks too often could cause more damage than benefit the skin.
Examples of active masks are both La Bella Figura masks, all Laurel masks, Leahlani Kokoleka, Josh Rosebrook Cacao Antioxidant Mask, Mahalo The Bean. These should not be used more than once or twice a week.
If masking on two consecutive days, I would recommend using either a mask intended for a frequent use, or a combination of an active mask for one of the two days and a mask for daily use on the other.
This is probably my most common mistake - applying a deodorant right before I get dressed which always, and I mean always, results in white stripes on my clothes and stains especially on the armpit area if it’s a sleeveless top/dress.
A moisturizer helps drier skin to be well hydrated prior to applying makeup and oilier skin to balance the sebum production.
You could also add a few drops of a face oil or a little bit of your balm to a powder foundation to make your own liquid foundation. If you haven’t done this before then getting ready for a party is probably not a good moment to experiment.
After a long day (or night) of partying or running around to make sure that everything goes smoothly, all I want is to do is go to bed and sleep.
In those moments long skincare rituals seem like a burden so I used to rush through it. "Spread" cleanser on my face, wash off, mist, spread a moisturizer and off to bed. I intentionally use the word “spread” because this is exactly what I would do, just spread it. No massaging, nothing.
But you need to make your products work. Just “spreading” products on my face so I could check them off my to do list might work for my consciousness but you can’t fool the skin.
Massaging a cleanser for a minute onto your skin would help you unwind and it will also remove the party makeup properly. In most cases I prefer a cleanser which rinses off with water like La Bella Figura The Clean Slate or Mahalo the Unveil.
There are nights however when I crave the feeling of a warm towel on my face before I go to bed. On those days, I go for Josh Rosebrook Herbal Infusion Oil or Lina Hanson Baby Sensitive Skin Serum. Leahlani Bless Balm or Laurel Clarity are great options too.
I hope you there was something here which would help you feel more comfortable in your skin during the holidays.