A few weeks ago, I asked Diane Read, founder of Modern Minerals why she chose makeup when she started her business. Her answer was - because makeup made a woman feel good.
Her response reminded me of what they say about bad days – there’s always lipstick. A mantra I absolutely adore.
Apparently I didn’t communicate my excitement about her view well enough and somewhat hesitantly she said “Well, I guess you could say it’s a shallow approach…”
I clarified that I loved her take on makeup and shortly thereafter we moved on to the next subject.
Since then I couldn’t stop thinking about makeup and wondering when using makeup is "shallow" and when it is an empowering experience.
In it the speaker Michelle Miller said something which grabbed my attention – masculinity is about the result, femininity is about the experience.
Although she literally answered my question about makeup in her talk, it wasn’t an instant A-ha moment. It took me a few days of musing on how exactly doing something for the experience is different from doing it for the result.
But then I got it.
I don’t like coffee but I love English Breakfast tea. Because of the caffeine, I allow myself a cup of it a day, before noon. Just one.
There are days when I’m so absorbed with what I'm doing that I completely forget about the cup lying on my desk and when I reach for it, the tea is already cold. In the past I used to mindlessly drink it, although the pleasure was none.
I’ve had my cup of English Breakfast tea. Result achieved.
Recently however when I reach for my cup and my tea is cooler than the temperature I enjoy it, I throw it away and make myself a new brew. And then I enjoy every single sip of it.
Savoring the experience. Femininity, baby, femininity.
When I’m getting ready for an appointment – I put my clothes on, do my makeup and hair. I look in the mirror to check the end result. I look great but I could use a little bit of lipstick. Yes, better. Off I go.
A perfect example of completing a to-do list and riding the wave of my masculine energy.
Then there are also days when while getting ready for an appointment, I play music and sing along. I feel great, I look forward to that meeting but I’m a bit nervous about it too. I look into my eyes and I remind myself that I’ve got this. I talk to myself, out loud. And while looking in the mirror I notice my smile. Hmm I have a beautiful smile. Now that’s worth a lipstick. Perfect! Ready to rock that meeting.
Pure class femininity.
Result vs experience.
Makeup as vanity vs makeup as an empowering experience.